Reply to the Diarist: When Secrecy Isn't Sexy
This week’s Sex Diary follows a woman cheating with her ex while maintaining a stable domestic life. A reflection on midlife desire, don’t ask don’t tell, and the cost of avoiding hard conversations.
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Reply to the Diarist: When Sex is Going Through the Motions
After being ghosted, a gay grad student turns to sauna cruising and casual sex. The encounters are sex-positive and plentiful, but emotionally procedural. An ENM.life commentary on why not all sex reads as desire.
Reply to the Diarist: When Kink Turns Tender
A sexologist spends her birthday week in Europe with her dom, exploring kink Airbnbs, deep intimacy, and the emotional tenderness behind high-intensity BDSM. A diary about sex, trust, subdrop, and the love they refuse to name.
Polyamory and Polygamy are not the same. Not even close.
CNN recently covered new polling data showing rising public support for non-monogamoy. However, the report repeatedly used “polyamory” and “polygamy” interchangeably. They are not the same thing.
Nearly 60 Percent of Gen Z Are Open to Polyamory, New Survey Finds
Study finds 59 percent of Gen Z are open to open or polyamorous relationships, 65 percent believe poly offer more enriching romantic and sexual experiences, 72 percent disclose other relationships to their partners, 85 percent say they would remain in a relationship even if sexual chemistry fades.
Reply to the Diarist: Rediscovering Pleasure After Divorce
She survived divorce, raised teenagers, and now finds herself wanting again. Two men, one carriage house, and a woman rediscovering her body and her future. A warm, human story of midlife desire returning on its own terms.
Reply to the Diarist: When Rain and Deaire Combine
A week of rain, sex, and rare self-awareness. A woman in an open relationship finds desire without losing her center, and shows how honesty can make even the wildest choices steadier.
Reply to the Diarist: From Sugar Baby to Suburban Ghost
She isn’t choosing between lovers, she’s trying to survive a life she no longer recognizes. This week’s diarist moves from sugar baby glamour to suburban invisibility, using an affair to feel alive while her marriage quietly collapses.
Berlin Pastor Blesses Polyamorous Marriage of Four Men
In Berlin, youth pastor Lena Müller offered a blessing she described as "marriage in the eyes of God" to four gay men in a committed polyamorous relationship.
Kofi Siriboe Says Monogamy Can Feel Like 'Role Playing,' Opens Up About His ENM Practice
Kofi Siriboe says monogamy can feel “performative,” opening up about why he practices ethical non-monogamy. His reflections on relationships, fame, and personal truth shed light on the growing conversation around ENM in mainstream culture.
Reply to the Diarist: When "Open" Means Fantasy, Sex, and Life
Two lovers, one secret, and a week of desire disguised as freedom. What she calls choice might really be the fear of telling the truth.
Reply to the Diarist: Two Men, One Woman, One Decision
Two lovers, one secret, and a week of desire disguised as freedom. What she calls choice might really be the fear of telling the truth.
ENM
The Quiet, Radical Normalcy of Polyamory
Abby Moss lives in a triad that works: three adults, two cats, and one steady rhythm of care. Her story is a reminder that polyamory isn’t rebellion. It’s routine.
Relationships
She’s Monogamous. I’m Polyamorous. Somehow, We Still Chose Each Other.
They didn’t choose between monogamy or polyamory. They chose each other. A story about rethinking love without losing yourself.
ENM Newswire
Three Partners, Two Kids, One Family
Writer Jennifer C. Martin defies stereotypes. She’s a mom, a Southerner, baker, foodie, and lives in a full household with two nesting partners (her husband and her boyfriend) and two kids.
ENM Newswire
Is It ENM or Just Permission to Cheat?
Relationship coach Julie Nguyen explores a question many couples face when considering opening their relationship: Is my partner truly non-monogamous, or are they just looking for permission to cheat?
ENM Newswire
Mary Shelley Resurrected as Polyamory Icon
Literary historians are reframing Frankenstein author Mary Shelley as an early voice for polyamory, citing her open relationship with poet Percy Bysshe Shelley.
ENM Newswire
1 in 3 Say Monogamy Not “Realistic”
Nearly one in three adults now say lifelong monogamy is unrealistic, a stat that mirrors the rise of Ethical Non-Monogamy.
Editorial
Heart(s) Over Hype
An invitation to those who have felt that love’s old rules no longer fit. A welcome home to new maps of connection.